A gentle critique: I love the exuberance about your seductions but not the overall tone unfortunately (which is rare for me from your columns Christine!). Your experiences are your truths, but when you post it as general truth, even when leavened with a bit of humor, it’s *really hard* to let it go by unchallenged. By doing so I realize I’m on a tightrope above the gaping chasm of the “not all men” argument but bear with me a moment. Word choices matter: what started as “in my experience” and “some men” devolved as the article progressed into “men” and “they”. And while I can laugh with the best of them about how patriarchal entitlement intersects with a selfish showing in the bedroom (and believe me I feel better about myself in that comparison), the risk is that you indulge in ungenerous stereotypes. Imagine a guy noting his own personal experiences and loudly concluding “women sure can’t drive, am I right or am I right?”. Snarky gender generalization, even when grounded in personal experience and some systemic basis, tends not to promote growth or reflection (which I think is a hope of most of us who write?). If you are just venting about your own personal experiences without apology, well carry on. But the conclusions here to me are less about “sex with guys” vs “sex with women” and more about the specific guys you’ve chosen to have sex with. That said, I still clapped for it. What can I say, I’m a sucker for a thought-provoking read, even when there’s a (ahem) bone of contention.