A short response: solid and interesting article. Happy to have read it.

The longer response: the strongest parts of the piece were the sections on peace, validation, and nurturing. These are feelings I absolutely have experienced but had not put those words to, and they absolutely fit. So many highlights from your words there.

If you will hear me out, I would make a couple of kind suggestions: the respect section did not resonate for me at all. In your 2nd sentence you imply that you are looking at an audience of women, many of which may have experienced selfish male lovers. So I would encourage an awareness of how "it shows respect" is going to sound for many folks. This my opinion based on my own experiences, and I only speak for myself. It was the word used by your source material I realize, but I agree with other commenters who have said "value" is much better. "Your blowjob shows me respect" is a whole 'nother animal from "your blowjob shows that you value me".

And next: though I'd say we all interchange the words "women" and "girls" to some degree or another, I think the article plays better with using the former. The latter is a diminutive, and though it may be fine and playful between familiar lovers or friends, it could some across a bit loaded in the context of sex advice from a man.

I hope this landed as intended, thoughtful and genuine reaction instead of smug critique. Many claps for this interesting piece!