Fair, and I don't disagree. I personally just have zero association with the word in the context of sex (unless it is BDSM where we're explicitly playing on that power dynamic...and then it can be toe-curlingly good) . It apparently resonates with you (and the author and the Aussie relationship coach) which is interesting to consider too, and why. I suspect there's something there relevant to feelings about traditional gender roles. I'm eager to ask some of my blowjob-loving feminist friends. Thanks for the response!