Fellow technology guy here Chris. I hope you pay attention to Vanessa's commentary about getting to know a person and not treating women as a monolithic group. I think she is giving you good advice.

The red pill path is one of a woman as an object (for "sex and comfort" to paraphrase your article), not knowledge or truly meaningful partnership with a mate, which is not to say you don't need (or deserve) sex and comfort, though IMO there are many ways to satisfy these primal needs ethically and responsibly. And if that is the extent of your goal, ok then, but go into it understanding the path you are on.

You might spend some energy on assessing your emotional intelligence, which can be an important part of another person enjoying being with you. A good therapist, mentor, or reading can help give you some additional tools for being your best self. As can having friends who are women.

You are also not alone in your struggle. Best wishes Chris!