Finding a good therapist is difficult but is so critical. The variance between them is enormous, and the right therapist for one person can be completely wrong for another. Fortunately there are many out there now who list being sex positive which I think helps immensely (it did me). I am saddened to hear you weren’t able the guidance you were needing at the time, but it’s heartening to see your strength in the face of the unjust bias you are having to endure.