First, Kathleen, I loved the article. Very honest and candid. I share some of the frustrations with poly dating. I find I have to search patiently, and often very creatively, to find the kind of accepting, emotionally mature, and open folks that I want to connect with. Being kinky even further reduces the dating pool for me. I did find your distinction between serial daters and "real polyamory" (my paraphrasing, you didn't actually write that, but it felt implied) seemed a bit narrower than I would personally use. But I think it comes from a genuine place: that of frustration with folks who are not putting in the work to be emotionally mature in their intimate connections. Personally I do not find it impossible to be both emotionally committed to a small number of intimate partners, but to also still be open to "serial dating"; there is something so glorious about falling in love, even when it is a short-lived romance. Sometimes those are even the most memorable. It's so hard to fight that cultural mindset that relationships have to follow the escalator path. But I also need and crave that closeness with the "primary" 1-2 folks who deeply know and love me. Admittedly it is *very* challenging to find fellow people out there who are accepting of all of this. I simply adore and reflect your closing statement: keeping growing within yourself and being ready for the right person for what you want when they come along. Best wishes and I look forward to reading more from you!