First off, Emma, I clapped for this (many times, energetically). Your writing style is funny, candid, and provocative. The best articles IMO make an argument that stays with me for days after, and I find myself sharing them with the fellow seekers of truth in my social circles, as this one did on both counts. I highlighted the parts to me that were strongest to me: they were typically “I” statements about your own preferences and experiences and the conclusions you arrived at from them. The entitlement to co-opt queer spaces particularly felt to me to be an astute observation that had me applauding in my chair. The parts that I struggled with — that leaned a tiny bit toward judgy (again, I can only speak for my own experiences and opinions) — were when your experiences seem to be extrapolated to all threesome-seeking couples. Your opening sentence seems to question the validity of their existence at all, which to me feels problematic. And while I recognize our human need for labels like “straight” and “bisexual”, that is always going to fall short of the entirely more elastic reality of people’s sexuality, which lives on a self-defined spectrum and can vary with mood, setting, maturity, experiences. Couples seeking MFF threesomes (or MFM threesomes, or polyamory, or whatever that may be in their sexual comfort zones) *can* be done with authenticity, caring, and genuine love and generosity in my experience (and in my admittedly optimistic outlook on the world). But I digress from my intention, which is to celebrate your strong voice and an article that should cause introspection in any reader with curiosity about inviting another individual into their dynamic. There is always room for greater empathy, greater understanding, and greater consideration, and your article is a bold call for all of these, as well as an on-point direct admonishment to “stay the fuck out” for the selfish couples. Well done, and I look forward to reading more from you!