I agree. The always insightful Yael Wolfe penned an interesting article asking similar questions about "toxic masculinity" (and "Karen" and others): https://medium.com/liberty-76/is-it-time-to-retire-the-term-toxic-masculinity-4f650c807ca

I think when a term becomes a pejorative instead of something meaningful to advance understanding, it tends to have outlived its usefulness in reasonable conversation.