I had to reread to see if I indeed challenged his right to end the relationship...I don't think I did. I *am* challenging the supposedly ethical reason he gave as perhaps less ethical than people might assume. And hoped I did so thoughtfully and respectfully. I've found his responses to be thoughtful and considerate and open to introspection so I feel fine about both the message and the honesty. You certainly don't need to defend him from me; I can't speak for "all the people" you reference.

Many marriages are prostitution by your definition. Did you intend that? It really is not so simple in my opinion; relationships are complex interactions. I'm not trying to obfuscate the centrality of the money and sex, I just don't find the stereotype that comes with the label promotes understanding. I'm curious why your insistence on the term. "It just is" doesn't really convince. Do you feel sugaring is a dishonest euphemism? FWIW, I call it that because that seems to be what the people doing it prefer to call it. But honestly, the term is less the point (at least my own point) as it was that we should be cautious in throwing the judgement around that comes with the label. If I can be honest, you really do not come across to me as "totally fine with it". And that's okay; there are credible arguments to support that position. I'm just trying to figure out what your objections really are about.

And no worries if we just have to agree to disagree. You've made me consider my position more carefully. I hope I've done the same for you.