I hear you. I don't exactly see it the same--I see many women who are also decrying a lack of the right men being out there. But I think yours is a common and growing sense of disconnection many men are feeling in the face of cultural changes that are exciting and empowering to some but disorienting and frustrating to others. I have two sons I'm trying to raise in this environment, in addition to having re-entered the dating pool myself (well, ethically doing so, I should clarify) within the past two years after a long marriage. My path included these things, if it helps: healing my own hurts with a good therapist so I could limit anger and defensiveness, reading (a *lot*) on relevant topics from a variety of perspectives, seeking to define my personal philosophy, and social interactions with like-minded folk (especially women) in online communities. I've made many mistakes but I've learned so much. I hope that perspective helps or gives a bit of hope.