I think Elle has the right of it here on what I was trying to say (and ask). And I firmly agree with her that the level of aggressiveness and disregard of boundaries is a rampant problem with the 'dick pic'. I think that is probably what most reactions of "gross!" are about out there, rather than a reaction to male sexuality or the body part itself. You don't have to search far for some ridiculously clueless guy imposing his sexuality in unwanted ways, usually with the ubiquitous dick pic. I've been seeing more trends toward women shaming these folks with screenshots and tweets (sometimes to the confusion of the offender); and that probably is not a bad thing to provide visceral reality check for such rampant bad behavior. To me that in no way detracts from such behavior among consenting participants.

It's still interesting to me Federica that if I read you correctly that you are saying that you respond differently to unsolicited advances like this, correct? And I that is not at all to imply there is a 'normal' or 'not normal' here (though awareness of other folks boundaries is pretty essential civilized behavior, particularly with the perspective of sexual assault problems in our culture). I do know of women on Fetlife who invite such advances in their profiles and celebrate it. Good for them; they ostensibly have consented (and also can change that consent as they decide and it should be honored).