I'm not sure how you concluded this was "ending easily" after four attempts to save the marriage. This judge, nor anyone else, myself and you included should have a say when two competent adults decide divorce is the best option for themselves and their family. I'm really trying to understand and empathize with your assertion but I have a hard time with the idea that some judicial entity can dictate anything about an adult's intimate relationships. If due process and fair treatment were observed, it's the judge's responsibility to grant the divorce, not insert her own ethical lens about marriage into an already stressful and very personal situation. At least this is how I see it.

Admittedly I'm not impartial: I am extremely amicable with my ex, but if some well-intentioned but mistaken judge tries to block our divorce when it happens, I will fight them with every fiber of my being. And you should too.