Interesting read, thanks for sharing. Overall I agree with your perspective. Admittedly this is from my perspective as a cis white man of a certain age, but it seems lazy, inconsiderate, and often undeserved, and I concur it is poor social behavior. I think the strongest defense from women ghosting is one of a potential safety concern--how a woman can know if you are among the statistical minority of people who handle rejection with a threat of violence is a valid question. But larger-scale normalization ghosting contributes to a social fabric of mistrust, and a lack of practice in the necessary social skills of difficult communications and handling adversity--all of which seems to me to raise the level of frustration and mistrust in dating (and ironically may be contributing to the individuals who lash out). I do think how you "go after" those folks is important. Doing it aggressively may reinforce avoidance--potentially validating the fear--and encourage the behavior. Be willing to be vulnerable and acknowledge the pain that being ghosted caused you, as much as that may feel like admitting weakness, might encourage reconsidering it. Brene Brown writes wonderfully on this topic. "Vulnerability is our most accurate measure of courage." (and often a sign of a mature human, in my experience).

Thanks again for inspiring some thinking for me on this topic, and apologies if it got preachy. Great topic!