Jay Quisitive
2 min readMay 20, 2020

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It’s ok Trish, you can respond to me directly. I welcome challenges, especially if respectfully done (dog turd analogies notwithstanding…interesting choice to link “dirty” sex with feces). What I intended to communicate is this: that any kind of work can be done ethically or unethically. Sex work is not (to me at least, based on my own experiences) an inherently immoral activity, any more or less than any other. To you, and most Americans perhaps, it sounds like it is. And on that we may just have to respectfully disagree. I encourage you to understand why you have come to that conclusion (religion, personal experience, upbringing, a need for simple solutions, etc.) because the mindset of “it’s just wrong…period” doesn’t allow much room for understanding something that has been around as long as there have been people to engage in it. Are there concerning issues that have traditionally been associated with sex work, such as drug use, abuse, pimps, criminalization, etc? Yes, but some of that is a stereotype and none of it addresses the core question of whether two consenting adults can morally choose to agree to an exchange of money/goods for sex, intimacy, and/or kink indulgence. Is there a potential for corruption and power imbalance with money? Always. But that’s true of many relationships IMO. Yet we reserve a special righteous indignation and bias when it comes to sex workers. There is an interesting argument I’ve recently run across that sex work in fact upholds a patriarchal imbalance that I think may have some merit so I’m not against the idea that there is more to be said on the topic.

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Jay Quisitive
Jay Quisitive

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Musing and writing about sexuality and ethics. I think I made $8.75 last year from Medium. I’m not here for the money. I’m here to explore and engage.

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