Kaia, as my teenager would say (though he'd be smirking): you are spitting hot fire! I really liked this piece...and I especially thought your early-on frame-up of the problem was thoughtful and evocative. Your list of 5 expectations of reciprocity had me cheering. Powerful.

I tried to capture a bit of this in a piece I did on masculinity to allow space for women's rage and assertion right now, but you gave it voice in a much better way, and this is something I think any reasonable man with women of agency in his life should read and digest. I'm considering sharing it with my father as someone struggling to understand my younger sister.

I've been reading some of the amazing work of Jonathan Haidt in moral psychology, and "reciprocity" is a term that he would say traditionalists, conservatives, free-marketers, and progressives can all easily comprehend and embody--and in my experience he is correct. It's a core principle of group cooperation. Without it a community loses cohesion.

Thanks for writing this, many claps, and keep up the great work!