Matilda, this article is a double-win for me: you introduce me to a new kink (though I think you correctly assess it feels like a flavor of findom), *and* raise a thought-provoking question about it’s ethical standing. At the risk of sounding smug, I knew exactly the kind of response you were going to get from some readers (“gold digger” coming in 3…2…1…). So first, I’ll repeat my mantra regarding kink: if a human activity exists, there is a population of people who fetishize that activity. Don’t yuk someone else’s yum just because it’s incomprehensible to you personally. And you guys are going to get tired of me always quoting Nietzsche but the situation keeps calling for it: “there are no moral phenomena, only moral interpretations of phenomena”. Paypigging is neither right nor wrong implicitly and you cannot apply a universal moral judgement on the activity itself; it’s all in how it is being done by the specific individuals. Are there women that are taking advantage of gullible men in this arena? Undoubtedly. And I assume it is equally true that there are participants in this activity that are doing it with care and kindness and in a way that everyone is getting exactly what they want from it. If you stop and consider it for a moment, there are always a mix of honest sellers and buyers and those who are trying to take advantage of people in just about every commercial activity anywhere. It’s equally true in sex work, banking, ticket sales, or buying that hamburger you ate for lunch. You are responsible for your own behavior, either as an informed buyer or as honest seller.