Jay Quisitive
2 min readSep 19, 2022

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Mike Tunison's article was a compelling read, so thank you for sharing it (his Twitter feed less so...yikes). I did note the he himself states "creating the possibility of false claims ignores the failures of established power structures that shielded abusers and made the list necessary". And I agree with him. If existing power structures were getting the job done regarding violence against women, there would be a lot less motivation for some folks to create their own forms of justice.

For perspective, and I mean this kindly, do you understand that women are fighting to not be raped, killed, and deprived of body autonomy in many cases? Not to mention simply feeling safe at work and school. These are things for which feminists are rightly calling for systemic changes, and seeking reasonable men to ally with them to help check the excesses and abuse of other men (hardly an "anti-male bias"). It seems a bit silly to hear your tone of how put upon and "tired" this seems to make you feel by comparison. Is the author strident and angry in her opinions? Yes (and the history she has shared seems to suggest she has reason). Is there room for more due process to protect both victims and accusers in lieu of ad hoc efforts? Definitely.

But, if you will pardon my saying, your perspective seems much more intent on minimizing the problems and those advocating for change. In short, besides sharing a one-sided emotionally charged voice of opposition for a minority of victims, what do you want to do to fix the overall problem for the majority? Do you think there is a problem? I think the questions are fair, though admittedly you may have to suffer through a few heavy sighs along the way.

(P.S. you might appreciate this clip from Trevor Noah regarding "echo chambers": https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=1189485254569087)

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Jay Quisitive
Jay Quisitive

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Musing and writing about sexuality and ethics. I think I made $8.75 last year from Medium. I’m not here for the money. I’m here to explore and engage.

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