That double-standard is *real*. Thank you for naming it, Yael. I’ve seen my female former partner at work who vigorously objected to something get shut down and disregarded when I would not for making the same protest. I miss working with her; we complimented each other and made each other better than we otherwise would’ve been. What I hear in this maybe at least as much as anger is a right to be firm, be assertive, and not be expected to always compromise. And that I celebrate even more. My personal journey has taught me a few lessons about my own anger: it’s the mask that fear wears, righteous anger does not necessarily lead to justice (despite our core American mythology to the contrary), and that I am best when I can name it, set it aside, and move forward without it. There is wisdom to be found in the Buddhist goal of an unfettered mind. But that is another story and you are telling yours so I am listening to your words with an open mind, even while I’m drawing a gentle and hopeful contrast where we all are a little less angry and less afraid. There are times where one must be ungentle to be heard, and that is to be celebrated and supported and listened to, particularly those whose voice has been marginalized.