There is soooo much goodness in here Witt! As a man who has been blessed with an abundance of anal-sex-enjoying partners in his time, I found myself nodding (and highlighting throughout). Just to add a few of my thoughts to yours from anal-giving perspective: foreplay (and especially analingus) early and often as a turn on: yes, yes, and yes. Even with partners who were not up for penetration, stroking the wonderfully sensitive nerves of the anus (with tongue or lubed finger or cock) has been enjoyed by every partner in my experience. I enthusiastically 2nd the use of natural oils. Grapeseed is my go-to because, though I have not seen this firsthand, I've read some women can be irritated by the higher alkalinity of coconut oil; but for those who know it works for them, it is the *best*--I love the smell and feel of it! And last, I also love the addition of a vibe during anal fun. A high-quality rumbly vibrator gets the whole area a'quiverin'. One definitely feels and enjoys it from the giving side too (in addition to the obvious benefit of her increased pleasure just making the whole experience that much more volcanic). Thanks for sharing!

Oh oops one more I forgot: the feeling of her gorgeous bootie pressing/grinding/slapping back against you is one of the best feelings ever, ever-and-ever-amen. Again, even without the need for anal or even penetration the mutual joy from this one bats a thousand IME.