This was a great title and concept, Aimalohi! I wanted to clap more than I did. I really was excited for an article digging into a celebration of the innocent and vulnerable parts of masculinity that go beyond our cultural clichés.

But I thought the angry insults towards what you don't prefer to be, well, more than a little judgmental and a distraction from what I thought would be your message. Was that intentional? I have a firm belief that generalizing about things which we personally don't enjoy--regardless of how justified it feels--serves to alienate and divide instead of heal and build bridges.

I would also like to read the research you refer to on male sexual experience, if you are able to cite it. It certainly seems reasonable that bad habits (read: selfishness, poor communication, poor emotional maturity) would lead to "utterly disappointing" outcomes for their partners (and the quotes are because your wording got a good laugh of agreement from me there tbh). That would be interesting to read.

I can only speak for my own perspective about what I think touches people, but I would like to hear more of that positive voice. Thanks for sharing!