While I appreciate your experiences as a dating coach and the civil tone here (and I clapped in agreement with several of your comments), I'd kindly caution you against such a glib sounding dismissal of the impact of patriarchal power systems. Entire roomfuls of rigorous academic works have been written exploring the topic, and one can draw direct lines from philosophers like Rousseau, Nietzsche, Derrida to feminist deconstructionism. I'd argue this is very much part of our civilization's maturation beyond dogmaticism. I do say this, and suspect you would agree: the problem with "the patriarchy" isn't its maleness; it's with the abuse of power.