You seem to me to be reacting emotionally to a perspective on manhood you disagree with. Is it less "extremely poorly thought out" than a dismissive, combative, and impolite response? You can present an alternative vision without such theatrics--which ironically support his points about traditional masculine tendencies--and would probably find a more receptive audience to your thinking if you did so. An empathetic word costs you nothing.

That said, kudos for presenting the authors you look to for your ideas on masculinity. I recollect Kipling having much to say on virtue, steadiness in the face of adversity, and hard-earned respect. It's not that these alternatives are not also worthy, it is that they alone are not the only vision of manhood we may choose to aspire to.

Thank you for considering my challenge to your words.